Dating and sexual attraction is just not one of those aspects. Nathan Kato (@kahtonotkayto) I’ve yet to actually have a relationship myself.
It’s not that I haven’t given it a shot—I have—but too much is being stirred up, and at the end of the day, it’s just not worth it. Or, to answer the question, my being Chinese has distanced me from dating anyone resembling myself. I dated a white girl for a couple months during my freshman year of high school before I started coming out to myself, and though we’re now on decent terms I’m not sure that I’d qualify those months as a real relationship.
She’s about to dive headfirst into the world of online dating, but she’s not looking for love.
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Some guys compliment me and ask why I don’t have a boyfriend, and I tell them it’s because I look the way I do, and in the gay community that’s not the desired target (which is young, lean, muscular, and white).
Some (mostly white guys) try to follow up with, “I love Asian guys,” which is, as we all know, not a compliment.
If a man of color tells me he’s not interested in me, sure, it’s upsetting.
I can try all I want to get him to understand that white supremacy dictates standards of attractiveness, but at the end of the day, I’m not going to change people’s minds. It’s hard to hold two wildly conflicting ideas (not being in the desired group AND not loathing myself for it), but I’m better for it.
Our discussion panel chimes in on their dating experiences and how race has factored into their love lives.Other times, guys will tell me that they’re not into Asians. ) This is something you won’t change my mind on—if your preference in people precludes you from seeing a certain group of people as attractive, that’s racism.And gays, I don’t care if you’re a POC and you say that—it’s something you need to examine yourself.It didn’t help that I disagreed with a lot of the conventions and values communicated by the Chinese community when I grew up.It also certainly didn’t help that I actively stayed away from anything remotely resembling my cultural heritage after I had a clean break with my parents due to my coming out.